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Respect in BDSM Erotica

If you head over to StreetWraith Press After Dark (I linked around the 18+ warning because if you are going there from here, you should already be 18+ … you’re welcome) you will see a review with a similar title as this article. My first review of another author’s erotica. I hope that you find it enjoyable and that it stimulates your mind enough to want to buy the story. It’s a good one. Emily Ryan-Davis came highly recommended to me, and I recommend her as well. What gripped me about Claiming Lauren and has me reading the rest of the eXclave series is the respect she pays to the Lifestyle and, most importantly, the safety and protocols that are so important in it. I wanted to expand on that idea … Read entire article »

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You Bad, Bad Girl

I wanted to get back to my thoughts about Submission and Respect. I’ve been thinking about the Discipline aspect of BDSM a lot lately, and punishment in particular. This might be something I come back to more, but I wanted to get down a few thoughts. So, what is Discipline? Outside of a dictionary definition, it is what I think of as the formal aspects of BDSM and D/s dynamics. So making rules and enforcing them, behavioral training, defining etiquette and enforcing it, etc. And I know that is very simplistic, but again, this is something I plan to come back to.

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Submission and Respect

Time to continue my discussion about Submission. This is a tough subject for me because I hold respect to be one of the most important things to have and show in both the BDSM community and within a dynamic. What does respect mean to me? On one hand, it is what you earn. You behave in a way that engenders respect from other people. That may be those people listening to you and valuing your opinion. It may be that person seeking you out as a mentor/Dominant/submissive/etc. It may be receiving a title from your peers because of the knowledge and skill you show. What all of these things mean, however, is that you have lived in a way that brings that respect to you. On the other, it is what we all show. … Read entire article »

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