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The Difference Between Fantasy and Fiction

I love writing erotic fiction. I sometimes enjoy reading it. Sometimes. I do not like erotic fiction that blurs lines of consent or is disrespectful – to women, to men, to the community it is writing about, etc. Sometimes when I voice this, people will say “but it is only fantasy.” And this is wrong. There is a difference between fantasy and fiction, and I am going to explain that. I think it is something that many erotica authors either miss or ignore, and our genre and its sub-genres hurt for it. Erotica can be erotic and it can still be respectful. It can sexualize respect and consent and be an incredibly erotic story. You just have to understand what a fantasy is, what drives that fantasy, and how to turn it into erotica.

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Filed under: BDSM, Erotica, The Erotic Author, Writng

Fifty Shades of Virginity Fetish

My apologies, gentle reader, for not updating in a while. I have been very busy, and I am working – again – on my time management. That being said, I have had something I have wanted to write about for a while now. The Virgin Fetish. What is the Virgin Fetish? The Virginity Fetish is a focus on sexual purity. In erotica, it is the focus on sexual purity as a means for arousal and sexual gratification. So long as it is presented in a way that is respectful of the players in question, as long as all players in question exercise their Agency, I personally find nothing wrong with the erotic use of the Virgin Fetish in and of itself. I even wrote about it on request for On the Fives. The … Read entire article »

Filed under: 50 Shades of Grey, Blogging, Erotica, The Erotic Author, Writng