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Red Flags

Not much to write about today. I’ve been busy with writing this week so much so that, honestly, I just kind of let my brain leak out today. I did find this, courtesy of a comment on a thread in a group on Facebook. There is probably a rule about the number of prepositions I just used in that sentence … Anyway, I am sharing it here. Red flags to watch out for. It is very good. I’m of the opinion if you find something really good, share it. It is how I learn. It’s how others will learn too.

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That Time of the Year

So it is that time of the year – the holidays. I have been rather busy, which is why the posting has been off and on. I am trying to keep new things coming, though. I have been studying BDSM and the lifestyle intently over the past several months, and I really enjoying sharing the things that I learn here. Today, however, we are taking a small break in all of that. I want to give first a belated Merry Christmas to all those who celebrate it. To those who don’t, I hope that you still accept the well wishes from me as I do. I also want to offer an early Happy New Year. I will try to write tomorrow, if only briefly, but tomorrow is an important day, so no promises. To … Read entire article »

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Power in D/s

Who has power in a Dominance/submission relationship? This is a discussion that I’ve been getting myself involved in a lot lately, and I’ve had a chance to really examine things I learned about this a long time ago. I think it is important to be able to state the reason for your beliefs beyond just “it is what I was taught.” If you cannot give reasoning beyond that, then you have knowledge, but no wisdom. So here are my thoughts on this. Take it for what you will, but it does play an important part in my overall philosophy of BDSM. So, in a Dominance and submission dynamic,

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Why Yes Under the Influence Is Not Yes

Alcohol impairs your ability to make decisions. When you are drinking, you become susceptible to suggestions. You are more likely to do things that you would not do sober. So going up to a stranger in a bar, whom you have never met and whom you know is intoxicated – or suspect is – and asking this person to have sex with you, go home with you, etc is bad. You do not know if this person would say yes sober. Predators purposefully target these people because they will be susceptible to seduction or just going along due to their inebriated state. Predators use alcohol and sometimes other substances to get around the need to obtain consent. Consent is important, period. Whatever the activity, BDSM, Vanilla sex, a little bit of heavy … Read entire article »

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A Picture Is Worth a Thousand Words

Even ones made up of words. Not sure who created it, but I liked it. Attributing it back to the first person I could find sharing it.

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